Wow, are we done trying to generalize female sexual preferences yet? There are roughly four billion women on Earth, sooo anything you say in reference to ALL women is really just a hyperbole. Luckily, we live in an age where hooking up is no big deal, and slut shaming is (hopefully) on its way o-u-t, so why can’t we all just be free to explore what works for us as individuals and stop trying to make globalizing statements about what ushers in a big-O?
According to Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a Social Psychologist and author of The Psychology of Human Sexuality, “during a sexual hook-up, men pretty consistently reach orgasm, whereas women are far less likely to do so. This so-called ‘orgasm gap’ has become the subject of a growing amount of research attention.”
Yea, some seriously misguided research.
I am totally about helping people orgasm– it’s very liberating and so important — but there is no way in hell that an infographic is going to help ladies and their partners figure out how to get the most out of a hook-up. I think a simple conversation of likes and dislikes could do that job, amiright?
Furthermore, lets take a look at what this infographic is based on: a mere 13,484 heterosexual female college students. Bigger than polling your freshman seminar, yes, but that is a poor representations of women as a whole, given the low number and the hyper-specific niche population. At the end of the day, we all have our individual preferences that cannot really be categorized. Also, is this info-graphic about sloppy and drunken party hook-ups? Because I think that might change the tune of this data, if you know what I mean.
This infographic certainly does not speak for me as a heterosexual female college student who likes hooking up. In fact, I don’t know many women who would identify with these statistics. Can we also maybe take a minute to recognize that there are A LOT of factors that go into a woman’s orgasm — including your mood, level of sleep or drunkenness, stress levels, and so on?
These statistics seem like another way to somehow prove the myth that women are just harder to pleasure, that we only enjoy sex when it’s with a loving partner, and that hook-ups are really a “man’s game,” which is actually infuriating. It’s like anti-sex propaganda for college-aged women, selling a message that random hook-ups “just aren’t worth it.”
You do you Lehmiller, but I think we girls can determine whether or not it’s worth it.
Also, where are the stats about why guys can’t get it up, hmmmmm? Maybe you can look into that for us.
You can check out the rest of Dr. Justin Lehmillers blog here and find out what else he has to say about the psychology of human sexuality.
Images courtesy of The Psychology of Human Sexuality blog
