Q: My boyfriend likes to pee in my vagina, and I like it too. Are they any ill effects I should watch out for? Will it upset the pH of my vadge?
–Big Peezy
Carol Queen: For a very long time, we all thought urine was sterile. But recent research has suggested that certain kinds of bacteria can live in urine. Scientists are investigating whether this is simply a normal situation—if everyone has a certain urine bacteria level as we do in the gut, for instance. If your boyfriend has any bacteria-based illnesses, it’s possible he has other-than-normal bacteria in his urine, but overall, the kidneys are the body’s filtration system. Of course, you probably enjoy kissing, too, and boy howdy is that a bacteria-laden pastime!
As far as pH is concerned, your boyfriend’s fluids are likely more alkaline than your vaginal flora. (Semen is also way more alkaline.) Your puss is supposed to be a bit acidic, but the pH of menstrual blood is about as high or higher than his pee, and most of us manage to deal with the pH variation that Aunt Flo brings pretty well.
Keep the pee play occasional to give your vagina time to re-establish its proper pH between bouts. It might also be helpful to rinse out with clean, clear water (not a packaged douche) afterwards, as well as all the regular things we ought to be doing—washing the vulva with clear water and no soap (or very mild, unscented soap); avoiding getting soap in the vagina; wearing cotton undies or going commando from time to time; and avoiding packaged douches. It may be a good idea to add the probiotic L. acidophilus to your diet, too. It’s questionable whether that helps, but if you notice any symptoms of vaginitis (discharge, itching, irritation), it might be worth a try.
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Carol Queen’s latest book is The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone
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This originally appeared in the February/March print edition of BUST Magazine. Subscribe today!
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