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Online dating. Ugh. From guys who don’t know how to carry on a conversation to message strings that resemble a game of twenty questions, there are plenty of horror stories out there. I’ve been lucky in that I haven’t had any truly awful experiences, but lately I’ve noticed how our culture’s attitude of entitlement when it comes to women’s time and bodies carries over into the dating world. For various reasons, I don’t typically become intimate with someone I’m dating for a while. It’s just...

I once went on five dates in a week and my long-term boyfriend knew about all of them.When I first heard about open relationships, I’d picture either middle-aged couples in swingers' clubs or teenagers wanting to sleep around. Yet now there are lots of people trying out non-monogamy in their own way, it’s just that nobody’s talking about it much. It’s still just too taboo to chat about over a chocolate Hobnob at work with Sandra.Fairy tales have a lot to answer for. The expectation...
  The underground tunnel that separates the 1/2/3 trains from the L/F/M at 14th street was crowded with commuters. Still, Devin Elise Wilson, surrounded by friends and family members, openly spoke about being diagnosed with herpes to any passerby who could hear. Accompanied by a keyboard player, Wilson and her friends sang Broadway show tunes to celebrate not only her two-year “herpaversary,” (anniversary of her diagnosis), but also her birthday. Wilson was diagnosed with genital HSV-1 in August of 2015. She was at a time in her life...
We're bringing you this Q&A from BUST's Sex section, featuring advice from sexlogist Dr. Carol Queen. Question: I have a hard time having an orgasm unless I’m in a specific position: on top in backwards cowgirl on a penis or dildo. This was fine when I was dating men, but now I have a girlfriend and am having difficulty coming from oral or from her fingers. I’m afraid to ask her to incorporate sex toys in our budding relationship. Is there something we can do or something...
I hit my late 20s having experienced broken bones, root canals, filing my own taxes, negotiating salaries, skinny-dipping, hitchhiking, and much more. But I had not yet used a vibrator — or any sex toy for that matter. This was in no way a decision, at least not a deliberate one. I had no moral qualms or sexual bashfulness. I consider myself a sexually liberated and adventurous woman, and at some point, I started feeling shame whenever I admitted to my vibrator virginity, as if I...

“I hate feminists,” he’d say. “It’s a load of rubbish, women always moaning." I’m not quite sure how long I tolerated his ignorance, but I know that it was far too long. At first I could just sort of laugh it off, like he must be joking. Of course he doesn’t think feminism is ridiculous. Shouldn’t we all be feminists at the end of the day? He must agree that I should be paid the same as a man who does the same job as...

We're bringing you this Q&A from BUST's Sex section, featuring advice from sexlogist Dr. Carol Queen. Question: What exactly is scissoring? Is it a real thing? How do you do it? –Blades of Fury Dr. Carol Queen: It certainly is a real thing, although if you try it, your mileage may vary. For some, it’s delicious, and for others, it’s not their thing. Scissoring — which is generally done by two clit-and-vulva-having people (but it could be done with a soft penis too, I suspect), involves appositioning...

Guess what, ladies, the fashion trend you didn’t know you needed has arrived. . . now introducing crotch jewelry (aka "Beachtails"). And no, I’m not talking about vajazzling, I’m talking about a straight up chain that loops through the crotch of your bikini bottoms (/undies/thong/ass-wedgie jean shorts/whatever bottoms your heart desires) and has 1.5-inch-long dangles on either side with little charms at the end, courtesy of Japanese brand BoDivas. The charms come in a range of colors, and you can even be a fancy bitch...
There’s always been talk about the female orgasm. It's often been categorized as “elusive," a term that means that women, as a whole, orgasm less than men. Different psychologists, sociologists and general human beings have questioned and theorized about why that is, but there still isn’t a conclusive answer. A recent study from Chapman University, Indiana University, and the Kinsey Institute, however, gathered some intriguing data.Via Broadly, the study is one of the few that investigates the orgasm frequency of men and women with sexual...
The celestial phenomenon known as Mercury retrograde has become something of a scapegoat for everything from the minor annoyances to the catastrophic, Murphy’s-law-level screw ups we traverse on a daily basis. Parking ticket? Must be retrogradin’. Realize you had broccoli stuck in your teeth from lunch at the end of the day? Gotta be the work of Mercury rx. Right?  Not exactly. Although it’s easy enough to blame all the little bullshit life throws at us on periodic planetary movement, Mercury retrograde usually only makes some parts of your life...