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How To Try Pegging Without Breaking The Bank

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We're bringing you this Q&A from BUST's print magazine's Sex Files, featuring advice from sexlogist Dr. Carol Queen. 

I want to try pegging but I don’t want to waste my money. What gear should I get as a newbie? –Taking the Plunge

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There are inexpensive dildo/harness set-ups to be had, but in many cases, they’re not super high-quality, and sometimes they don’t even work with other dildos. What do you do if you find you really like pegging but your set isn’t keeping up with your enthusiasm? Or you find a partner who loves pegging but not the size of your dildo? (You won’t necessarily be wasting your money even if you don’t take a regular liking to pegging—you can always use a nice silicon dildo on yourself.)

There are two elements to a strap-on, so you’ll want to consider whether you want a leather, fabric, or other sort of harness. The RodeoH fabric harnesses are good for beginners, and Sportsheets makes a line of accessibly priced harnesses, too.

If you have a partner or someone in mind, shop for the dildo together. You can also ask them about size preferences, consider how dildo girth compares to how many fingers you might use when playing, and otherwise negotiate elements of the experience ahead of time. Just as many people have been surprised to find a penis knocking at their back door before discussing it, it’s not optimal to spring a pegging scene on someone.

But what if you don’t have a regular partner? A pegging enthusiast might well have their own dildo to bring to the party. It will be their favorite size, and will fit perfectly in their harness. On the other hand, you’ll probably need something small-ish and smooth for the curious Tinder newbie. The Charm silicone dildo fits the bill on both counts. The Riley is a little bigger, but also a good choice. (Please don’t forget your lube. Silicone is great for anal, but it’s not great with all silicone toys. Put a condom on your silicone toy if you’re not using water-based lubricant.)

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If you really want to be on trend, you can always buy the Broad City harness set. The comfy undie-style harness has “Peg Like a Queen” printed on the butt, which reminds me that I made a pegging how-to movie long ago, before it was even called that! Look up Bend Over Boyfriend for more insight about the 1990s than you ever knew you needed. I will just go and make myself a cup of tea, and smile at the vision of a generation of fierce pegging women with my name emblazoned on their hindquarters.

Carol Queen's latest book (written with Shar Rednour) is The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone.

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This article originally appeared in the August/September 2018 print edition of BUST Magazine. Subscribe today!

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