Dating App TInder


I’m gonna be upfront: I have a pretty big marshmallow in this campfire. You see, I met my boyfriend on OkCupid! I was instantly drawn to his shapely nose (it’s a thing), and I messaged him right away because his “most private thing I’m willing to admit” was that he was terrified by E.T. the Extra-Terrestrial as a child. Wouldja believe it, so was I! It’s been nearly two years (aw babe!) and we still do not speak of the film. Shudder. Let’s keep it that way.



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So when I heard that Consumers' Research compiled a mountain of data about relationships formed on dating apps, I swiped right over. What would their data tell me about my relationship?!

According to Pew Research, 5% of couples – married or otherwise committed – stem from online dating, so I just gotta ask, where are the other 95% meeting each other? In the laundromat? The grocery checkout line? Did your Dalmatians wrap their leashes around your legs and you just went with it? No judgement. Mazel tov!


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Of the men and women surveyed, 50% reported being Tinder-ers, with nearly a quarter saying “Okay!” to OkCupid, less than 10% each on, eHarmony and “other,” and 4% of you grinding away on Grindr. Consumers' Research focused on Tinder, OkCupid, Match, and eHarmony for the rest of their research.

As far as relationships went, 47% of Tinderellas and Tinder-fellas said their swiping led to successful relationships of any length, compared to 50% of OkCupid users. All right, Tinder. However, when asked if those relationships lasted longer than a month, that number fell to 32% for OkCupid users and plummeted to 13% for Tinderers. Womp womp!


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When it came to harassment, 57% of women surveyed said that they experienced harassment, compared to 21% of men. OkCupid and Tinder, the most popular apps by far, were neck-in-neck with harassment, with 38% to 39% of users reporting creepers on the apps, respectively.



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So, what does this mean for me and my marshmallow?  Not a whole lot. Dating, whether on- or off-line, seems to be a crapshoot. The one thing that seems to increase your chances of a successful love match, according to the Consumers' Research survey, is sending those messages! While the majority of users averaged 6 communications per day, those who sent more messages ended up in relationships more often. This despite the fact that, as they noted, “the majority of correspondences lasted less than a week.” Moral of the story? Keep putting yourself out there! More is better, in messages and Dalmatians!


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Good luck, daters!!

I Saw You on TInder image via Denis Bocquet on Flickr 


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Meghan Sara is a tour guide for Ghosts, Murders and Mayhem Walking Tours.  She is open-minded about everything, but intolerant to gluten.  She blogs at, is a regular contributor to Femnasty, and tweets her feelings @MeghanSaraK.

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