A 30-something asexual woman reveals the truth about her oft-misunderstood orientation By Keira Tobias // Illustration by Emily Flake I remember it clearly: I was in the sixth grade, and my mom asked me which boy I had a crush on. I refused to give a name, but she pressed on, asking which actors I thought were cute. I felt acutely embarrassed by the question, and didn’t want to answer her, but I finally said Ethan Hawke (this was the era of Reality Bites) just to appease...

Reddit can be a pretty a bleak place for feminists, with upvoted posts like this and this floating around. But redditors—or lurkers like me—who delve beyond the front page know there are corners of this sprawling open platform ruled by badass, empowered women. Take, for example, Reddit’s growing sex work community, where women are making bank selling adult goods and services on subreddits such as /r/pantyselling, /r/CamShow, /r/KikSnaps /r/fetishitems, and /r/Sexsells. So today I’m bringing you a few TIL dispatches from their neck of the Internet...

In a recent survey, 68% of teens said they agreed with this statement: The primary reason they don't use birth control or protection is because they're afraid their parents will find out. According to research by The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, that’s nearly seven out of ten teens who say they are scared of what their parents might think or say about their sex lives. Although the teen pregnancy rate in the U.S. is currently lower than it has ever been in the last...

  Huffington Post’s new interactive feature, inspired by badass artist Sophia Wallace’s Cliteracy project, takes us on a mind-blowing tour of the clitoris. The feature provides readers with history, anatomy, and a discussion of the culture surrounding sex education today (plus lots of awesome videos).    “[Cliteracy] is a mixed media project that explores a paradox; the global obsession with sexualizing female bodies in a world that is illiterate when it comes to female sexuality,” says Wallace. “The project reveals the phallic-as-neutral bias in science, law, philosophy, politics, mainstream...

This past week Congress passed a “doc-fix” bill providing $200 billion in annual funding for Medicare and healthcare programs. We’re stoked to see that this bill passed with overwhelming approval ( 92-8), and it seems like this symbolizes huge progress in the fight for affordable and ethical health care. But hold on, don’t bring out your noisemakers and confetti yet, there’s a catch, and it’s a major problem. The bill does provide more funding to Medicare and incentivises doctors to provide affordable health care without the...

Dr. Carol Queen answers the questions you wanted to know about sex but were waiting for someone else to bring up. In this edition, she talks about what to do when your partner's drive disappears and how to decide if you're going to go for a threesomes. Got a sex or relationship question you need answered? Submit it at bust.com/sex! Q: I’ve been with my boyfriend for five years now. Everything’s awesome, except for one thing: he never wants to have sex anymore! We used to...

We recently came across a piece on HuffPost entitled 10 Reasons Women Should Date Men In Their 50s. Basically, it asserts that women everywhere must wait for men to turn the magic five-o before expecting them to be respectful, responsible, and sensitive human beings—a message that's not only offensive to the female sex, but to all good dudes everywhere. What's more? The subtext of the entire piece speaks to why younger women should date men in their 50s. Newsflash: Women in their 50s are happy to...

Yup, that’s right.  This just took the VCC (Vulvar Clitoral Complex, let's make that a thing okay?) to another level. If you’re an open-minded/bare-all-and-don’t-give-a-shit-who-sees-it kind of person, these clit-themed Mac and PC track pads (3 sizes: small, medium, and large) are definitely one way to make that known. So. Here they are. Drawbacks: This item doesn’t really feature a diverse or realistic range of vaginas. And of the two-tone options given—“Kiki” and “Vanessa,” respectively though perhaps not respectfully—both pussies are waxed. Which is both whatever and...

Got a sex or relationship question you need answered? We're looking for you, our beloved readers, to submit your queries at bust.com/sex and our superstar sexpert Dr. Carol Queen may answer it in an upcoming issue of BUST Magazine! How exciting! Go sex! image via nenov/deviantart.com ...

Another day, another senator who does not understand how birth control works, despite wanting to pass legislation banning certain kinds of birth control. Can we get these guys a pamphlet? This time it was Sen. Kevin Lundberg from Colorado, who serves as chair of the Health and Human Services committee. He has characterized IUDs as abortion causing drugs, even though health care experts have said that isn’t true. It just...is not true. In the Coloradoan, Lundberg speaks to his point by saying: “Protecting life is a...