Q: I’m queer as heck but currently in a relationship with a man. Things in the bedroom can sometimes get a little excessively hetero for me (i.e. penis-in-vagina sex is his No. 1 move). This is a problem because I also really like simulating experiences that tend to be seen as “more queer,” like prostate stimulation for him and a lot of touching and vibrator use for me. The thing is, this guy sometimes has a problem with my lovely vibe (he thinks it’s “too...

“Deep breath in. Let your abdomen rise and expand like a balloon. Now, drop your pelvic floor. Imagine a lime passing through your vagina.” It takes great mental energy and focus to move muscles that you’ve never consciously moved—muscles that you’re not even supposed to talk about. Though I can’t really tell, I must be doing it right, because my physical therapist says, “Perfect!” Then she removes her finger from my vagina and says, “See you next week!” over her shoulder as she leaves the exam...

Sex & the City “So, then, I’m leaving his apartment this morning, and he says, ‘I didn’t think you were a first date kind of girl.’”My best friend and I were having breakfast at a diner after she had a fun night out. She had been talking to Jacob for a week on a dating app when he asked her out for drinks. They met up. She liked him. He invited her back to his apartment. She met his dog. She stayed over, and she had...

The first night that we spent together, I couldn’t stop crying. Turned over on my side, I felt him stroke my back from the other side of the bed. “No matter what happens, I won’t stop caring about you,” he mumbled in a voice that only made me sob harder. Later, I thought about that moment a lot. I wanted to go to Norway and hang his picture in the streets — warn all Asian women Tindering in Oslo. We had matched seven months earlier, and at...

I've had my share of let-downs in life. Off the top of my head, I can think of several: always being picked last during gym class; realizing we couldn’t always afford the Sunny D, and thus having to settle for generic, store brand juice; finding out that Santa Claus wasn't real. Sure, these all seem like insignificant stressors that can be ignored with little effort. Maybe they were; who knows? However, I realize now, as a poor excuse for an adult, that I never really...

Photo via Planned Parenthood Over the past 100 years, Planned Parenthood has served as a safe haven for those who cannot afford expensive procedures or may not have access to information concerning their health otherwise. And with a motto like “Care. No Matter What,” it comes as no surprise that the clinics and their mission are still going strong. Since the beginning, Planned Parenthood has worked hard to identify new ways to protect and stand up for sexual health and advocate for the power of information....

30 RockI’m that friend. The one who overshares on Facebook. The one who rants about the men on Tinder who think the appropriate response to “What are your other interests?” is, “I’m interested in fucking you.” Every time I post about my online dating woes, some helpful married friend pops up with advice. And, while their words are meant to be supportive, they often make me feel worse.So can we retire the following phrases, please? 1. "You don’t need a man!"You’re right, we don’t. And we know this. I’ve...

Jane The Virgin I lost my virginity at 19, but I didn’t experience an orgasm with a partner until after three more years of college, a cross-country children’s theatre tour during which I spent a lot of time drinking gin in a minivan, several temp jobs (one of which was at Court TV), at least four heartbreaks, and one sweet stint as a dog runner. Ten years. And as dismal as that looks on paper, I don’t think I’m an anomaly. I think most women have...

Whore-o-Scopes  Astrological Advice For Ladies Looking To Get Laid October/November   Libra | Sept. 23 to Oct. 22 You need to revisit what gets you off best. Reclaim your sexual power over the next two months by taking charge in the bedroom or using the toy of your choice. Mind games are Libra’s specialty, so change the power dynamic by tying them to the bedpost. Role-playing with your partner can also help light a fire if you are feeling adventurous.   Scorpio | Oct. 23 to Nov. 21 You have been holding on...

via Etsy/knickerrocker Hey there, We’ve been through a lot, you and I. With so many young women getting plastic surgery to alter the appearance of their vaginas (often due to the misogynistic beauty standards shown in mainstream porn), I wanted to address this “cunt hate” by revisiting our own history. “Firecrotch” was a term thrown at me by asshole high schoolers before I had even kissed a guy, when I was in middle school. And I remember sitting in math class in 9th grade having annoying boys ask me if...