Dr. Carol Queen Takes On Bad Head  My husband is bad at going down on me. The issue isn’t discussing it with him, because I do that. How do I show him how to get better? I’ve tried talking him through it, but that’ s difficult while he’ s down there, and it can kill the vibe. — Betty Blue Balls There are books and videos about oral sex that could be useful, and extra knowledge is always a good thing if he can match that up...

Every month, BUST.com shares a post on behalf of It’s Not Personal, a female dating collective based in New York. This month’s feature is by the project’s founders Sara Radin and Vanessa Gattinella. In March 2016, we officially launched It’s Not Personal, a collective creating opportunities for women to share their dating experiences without judgment. The project was born out of an in-person break-up, a shared love of writing, and a wealth of dating experiences. In the past few months, we’ve hosted several workshops, giving women...

Astrological Advice For Ladies Looking To Get Laid by Jonna Bond   ScorpioOct. 23 to Nov. 21Dreamy Neptune is in the romance sector of your chart, which is sparking your creativity. This is the perfect time to reinvent yourself—so make like Janet Jackson and take control. Whether that means collecting lovers or exploring fantasies (your Scorpionic jam), take advantage of Neptune’s emphasis on imagination. It could lead to an intimate, meaningful relationship, if you want.   SagittariusNov. 22 to Dec. 21You’re still feeling the burn from November when Jupiter and...

In BUST's column, sexologist Dr. Carol Queen takes on getting rough in bed. My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. We both have healthy libidos, and our sex is pretty steamy, but I’d like to spice it up a bit. I know he likes it rough, and he talks dirty to me when I go down on him. My only trouble is feeling comfortable talking — and acting — rough back. It feels too contrived. I want to turn him on and am open...

  I woke up suddenly, jolted into consciousness by a sharp headache. I was in bed but couldn’t remember getting there last night. Burying my face into my pillow, I tried to piece it together: I remembered running into an old friend on campus and grabbing a drink with him and his buddies. I met somebody at the bar. My friends left, but the new guy and I continued drinking. On the way to another bar, he suggested a strip club instead. And so, me and...

There’s talk about women faking orgasms during sex but what about fake moaning? We learn a lot about how to act during sex from the media and porn but what if all those high-pitch, passionate screams we are bombarded with taught us to moan for something other than our own pleasure? Female pleasure or lack of in heterosexual sex is a freshly debated conversation. Research from Planned Parenthood suggests that 1 out 3 women have trouble reaching orgasm during sex. Of course, sex is more than...

Mean Girls “We survived Ceausescu. We’ll survive this idiot, too.” My mother’s words sink in over the phone the morning after Trump is announced as president-elect. I feel bitterness, hope, anger, and resilience all at once. I want to believe that no single person can have that much influence on day-to-day life, on freedom. But the political is always personal.  As a first-generation Romanian American, I’ve seen the consequences of red politics, communist and conservative, on women’s health and well-being. When Trump is announced as president-elect, thoughts I’ve been...

Searching for the perfect holiday gift for the girl who has everything? Well, look no further: Artist Orien O’ Neill has created a line of clit-themed jewelry that’s both elegant and anatomically correct! Inspired by the internal clitoris, the Clitoring is hand-crafted in Bushwick, New York to be a fun conversation piece as well as a gorgeous accessory. If its wishbone-like shape is unfamiliar to you, that’s because it wasn’t until 2009 that French researchers Dr. Odile Buisson and Dr. Pierre Foldès gave the medical world it’s...

My first date with a real human occurred almost exactly a week after I’d lost my virginity to this person (yes, after). We’d met at a bar through a mutual friend, but the attraction didn’t immediately blind us both at first sight. My feelings for her were like a slow burn; I gradually felt that ache of longing you experience after you meet someone new, when you’re hoping that they’ll finally be the one to transform your entire existence. No matter how content you are...

I wasn't looking to find someone new when I got to uni, let alone cheat. As far as I was aware, I was in love with the man I would spend the rest of my life with. But I didn’t expect the wandering glances of other guys (and girls) and besides, I hadn't had the chance to flex my selfish bitch yet. Throughout my teens I'd been an angel, when I wasn't excused by booze, and really I didn't have a rebellious streak in my...