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Faking It: The Lies Women Tell About Sex—And The Truths They Reveal
By Lux Alptraum
(Seal Press) 
      

Why do women lie about sex? And do we really lie, or are our truths just misunderstood? These are questions Lux Alptraum ponders in Faking It by examining everyday untruths like lying about relationship status, lying about orgasms, and lying about being on your way when you’re really still outfit-planning. According to Alptraum, women lie to stay alive, to stay safe, and to have fun. And these lies say much more about society at large than they do about women specifically. For example, a made-up boyfriend is respected much more than a “Please leave me alone.” And lies about being a virgin or being on the pill are more likely to crop up when a woman’s truth is not what others want to hear. 

An introspective analysis of why we tell sex lies both big and small (and why we don’t always feel bad about it), this book will leave readers with more questions than answers. But the truths Alptraum unearths point the way toward more sexual candor. (4/5)

By Brianne Kane
Faking It is released November 6, 2018
This article originally appeared in the October/November 2018 print edition of BUST Magazine. Subscribe today!

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