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“If I’m still single, does that mean there’s something wrong with me?” asked a friend, a 25-year-old woman living in Brooklyn, New York. I faked a smile and assured her she would find someone eventually, but inside, I was fuming. How could someone think something so ridiculous? Then I remembered this was not a totally foreign emotion; it was actually a sentiment I have felt many times before. The more I thought about it, the more I realized this was a larger issue with the...
  As a wee riot grrrl, I ran across a late night cable documentary that changed my perspective on porn. One segment featured a poetic leather dyke, and then appeared a bountiful fire-maned babe full of laughter — with her legs spread for the audience to examine her anatomy and the tongue-in-cheek title, Public Cervix Announcement, I knew I had just discovered the Mary Poppins of what I would later learn was sex-positive feminism. As a porn performer and prostitute in the ‘70s and ‘80s, Annie Sprinkle...
Funny woman Amy Schumer revealed in an interview with Marie Claire that her first sexual experience “was not a good one.” She revealed to the magazine that when she lost her virginity at age 17, it wasn’t consensual. She added that, at the time, she didn’t realize what had happened. “I didn't think about it until I started reading my journal again,” Schumer said. “When it happened, I wrote about it almost like a throwaway. It was like, And then I looked down and realized he...
Image via Christopher Stoudt's short film, "I'm Graysexual" How do I talk to my partner about being “graysexual”? There are times when I enjoy sex and even have a sex drive, but more frequently, I have no sex drive at all. I’ve been dating my partner for a little over a year, and I’m struggling to communicate my needs to him. When we first started dating, our sex drives were in sync, but for the last six months or so, I’ve had little interest. I don’t...
I am a woman with a terrible case of wanderlust. Even when I try to stay put, adventure finds me and whisks me away. Great aunts and nosy neighbors tell me that I’ll never find a man until I “settle down,” and although I’ve had interludes of rootedness, love never seems to find me when I’m stationary. My wanderlust has recently been reined in by graduate school. I haven’t spent three years in the same place since high school, but I saw it as a new...
This week on Not Safe with Nikki Glasser, Nikki explores the unknown of the female orgasm. She asks five women what they think is actually happening when a woman has an orgasm, and she gets varied responses: "Your organs are just shaking." "Things get bigger and bigger. … There's words for all those things, but I forget what they are." "Like in seventh grade when you did that science experiment with the two bottles. … Volvano vagina." She met with Dr. Nicole Prause — who Nikki calls "the Neil...

My friend’s cousin recently got married and the husband was ecstatic to find that she was a virgin. Apparently, the cousin bled on her wedding night and received a hug from her husband, who hadn’t really thought much about his wife’s virginity, but felt great that she was one. Unintentionally, the cousin had passed the "agnipariksha equivalent," or the test of chastity of our times. After we were done gaping at the absurdity of the situation, considering my friend’s cousin will never find out if her husband was a virgin...

Sweat drips down your back and your sheets are twisted around your legs, chaining you to the passionate prison of your partner's bed. Your hands are tied above you, rendering you defenseless against the intense heat that emanates from your partner's body, and their warm lips make your skin tingle. You no longer feel like a single person—instead, you're intwined so deeply with your partner that it's as if you've always been one. Everything's great and going according to plan. That's what it's like every time...

On How to Get Away With Murder, it's revealed that Michaela has never had an orgasm I’ve never had an orgasm. I’ve also never had intercourse. I’ve had men use their fingers on my clit, but I always get to a point where it’s too much and sometimes painful. When I try to use a vibrator, it’s the same result. And using my own fingers does nothing. Part of the problem is that stimulating my clit doesn’t feel good. It feels extremely intense, but not pleasurable....

He’s texting you. He’s texting your friends. He tells you he must see you as soon as possible. He doesn’t text you for five days. Never makes concrete plans. Makes bids for your affection and baits you into an emotional trap. ALERT: A fuckboy warning is issued for your area. It is recommended you take the following actions. 1. Stop all contact immediately. With dubious promises freshly ringing in your ears, you might be tempted to keep this fledgling flirtationship afloat. But he said he wanted to meet...