hi everyone! it has been a loooooong time since i posted in this thread or on bust in general. however it was this thread that actually introduced me to the bust lounge nearly a decade ago. i was a young lady, just starting off to college and completely struggling with my body image. i honestly don't think i'd be as comfortable as i am now if it hadn't been for all the great support and advice from the plethora of fabulous women here.
*waves* hi karategrrl! i've missed our exchanges!!
i've been back through reading the posts over the last few pages and a lot of good points have been made. i'm also glad to see there has been a general shortage of trolls, because any thread with the word 'breast' in the title certainly attracts the creepazoids.
QUOTE(insideout @ Jan 24 2011, 10:42 AM)
I suppose objectively everyone is going to do what's right for them. But I also can't help but notice that beauty standards are perpetuated in large part because of the people who react to them - i.e. people who get implants. And that's not a subjective opinion, that's just reality. Every augmentation preformed, no matter the reason behind it, is a reaffirmation of that standard.
i totally agree with this statement. on the one hand, when it comes to plastic surgery i always think, never say never. i also am a firm believer in individual choice and freedom and i think 99% of the time, it trumps "the greater good," however that might be interpreted. that being said, on a personal level, i do feel kind of betrayed when a small breasted woman gets implants. in our celebrity obsessed culture in the USA, it especially bugs me when small breasted actresses cave to the hollywood pressure. i remember being particularly upset when Kate Hudson, especially after hearing what an asshole A-Rod was to her about them. she's still beautiful and she had them done tastefully, but i was disappointed nonetheless.
i don't want to make spot-on feel like Benedict Arnold, however, because i 100% respect her choice to do whatever the fuck she wants with her own body and her own money. if it floats your boat, more power to you, who am i to stand in the way of your happiness and satisfaction?
i could never opt for surgery myself, because it is such a commitment of money, energy and to future surgeries. that being said, if you could give me a pill that would make my breasts grow naturally, i might be inclined to take it. by my own logic, i'd be betraying my other small breasted sisters.
at the end of the day, nothing is sexier than confidence. you can have the perfect body and still be unattractive if you have a terrible personality or no feeling of self-worth.
i just read this article: http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content...-wrong-reasons/
the comments are especially heartening and i love that this website even exists! we are products of our media-saturated culture. Sure, boobs have been objects of obsession since the beginning of time, however their sexualization is highly culturally based. in katherine dettwyler's work on breastfeeding and breast perception in modern and traditional societies, she found over 100 societies were breasts were not seen as sexual, i.e. they were not ogled, fondled or featured in sexual activity. i think a lot of people are uncomfortable with the idea that this is a cultural, not a biological issue.
it is especially difficult to combat this obsession now because of the amount of media we are all exposed to whether we like it or not. we are products of our culture, even if we rebel against it, and our unconscious minds are shaped by forces we are by definition, unaware of.
i'm not sure where i was going with that, suffice to say, you shouldn't beat yourself up or anyone else for feeling inadequate in the body you've been given. once you are aware of why you feel the way you do, you can make an informed decision as to how to proceed. for some of us, that may be surgery, for others, it may be an erect middle finger at society, and for others still, a zen acceptance of the world and ourselves, as flawed.