Hope this post isn't too long, but I joined just to reply here, so I guess I have a few things to say.
I thought I might toss in a guy's perspective. A lot of the women here were exactly right, but I think if I were in your situation and had mainly other women telling me not to worry, I might have a little trouble believing that's really how men think. So a lot of this is just to reinforce what they said -- to assure you that they're right, and many men really do
like smaller breasts.
First, parts of your original post:
QUOTE(KeraBear @ May 23 2009, 09:39 AM)
I am 16 years old and don't even fit into a AA cup. They seem like they are in that quasi-"almost boob" stage of an 11-year-old. I am also short, skinny, with a boyish figure. Every time i seem to get to the point where I am getting close to loving my body for what it is, somebody seems to tear me down about it. Interestingly enough, it's mostly other GIRLS and not the guys. Why do you suppose that is?
Also, please tell me things will get better after high school. Thanks!
Angie's right; high school girls really do tear each other down, and it's mostly because they're self-conscious about themselves and want to redirect the negative attention. You could
pick out their flaws to "get even," but then you'll be as bad as they are, and what may be worse, they'll just hate you and fight you and pick on you that much more.
It really does get better after high school. People almost entirely stop teasing you. My dad told me that, over and over, when I got picked on in high school (well, not for breast size). I believed him, and he was
right, but I remember it was little consolation at the time. Just hold on and dream of the future; it will
come. Angie also nailed it when she said you don't have much choice in high school. You're forced to be there, all day, every day, with those same people. It gets much better when you're not forced to be around specific people all the time.
Aithinne and oceangirl said that most men don't care about breast size or that they really like small breasts. And you noticed the guys
aren't making fun of you. That's because they truly don't care about breast size. They care about breasts
, just not the size! I mentioned I got picked on in high school... But when I was dating a girl, that's one thing that the other guys congratulated me on, and it was one of the times I felt the most included. And you guessed it -- she had small breasts. (Small, beautiful
breasts!) The other guys made fun of me for just about everything in high school, but never once for dating a girl with small breasts. It didn't matter a bit to the guys, even in high school.
QUOTE(karategrrl @ May 19 2009, 07:53 AM)
One thing I've learned here is that the small boobie lovers are out there! They're just not always so vocal.
Well, if you haven't already figured it out, I'm definitely a man who likes smaller breasts. And I have
been more vocal about it the last five or ten years, and I've found that other men feel the same way. I think they're just afraid to be the first to admit it, because, just like women, men get the message from society that "real" men like huge boobs.
So when I'm with a male friend or two, and one mentions a woman nearby with big breasts, I say out loud what comes to mind: "Meh, those are a bit bigger than I like." And very frequently
, after one man has dared to admit that, the others will then agree and say, "Yeah, I actually kinda like smaller ones better, too." I used to think my preferences were different, but I've gradually realized they're extremely common.
The real secret is: men just like breasts, and the vast majority of men truly don't care what size they are. I've never
seen any man refuse to go out with a woman (or even to decide not to ask her out) because of the size of her breasts.
One more comment on KeraBear's post: You said you're 16. I've noticed that most women's breasts seem to keep growing until they're 20-22, or maybe even later. So, IMO, a woman who is the "perfect size" at 16 will probably be larger than I prefer by the time she's 20 or 22. If you think you're too small at 16, you'll probably turn out perfect! Even if they don't grow any more, I guarantee you're still fine, and most men will agree. Stand up straight, show a healthy confidence in your body, and give a warm, friendly smile, and men will melt.
P.S. I'm not exactly sure what "special boobie handshakes" are, but from Aithinne's description, I'm in!