QUOTE(Sweaty in Social Studies @ Jan 30 2009, 10:32 AM)
When I read statements like this one,"But you've been saying a lot of stuff that's just plain wrong or misleading.", I can't help but feel irate on a personal level. I may never have had Bacterial Vaginosis, but I know enough to write a publication on it.
And I'm telling you, you don't. You very obviously don't.
Think about it. You claim expertise on BV. But someone who's had BV is telling you: NO, YOU AREN'T. Credibility is something that is earned. You don't get it by declaring you're an expert.
Let's take your 1st statement: "It seems like you may have resistant strains of bacteria." As I pointed out, that is pretty far off the mark. MOST (if not ALL) of us are here because we've had recurrences after prescription treatment
. For some of us, the cycle went on for years. Antibiotic resistance is definitely a concern, but there's a more plausible reason for our suffering, and knowing that is a big part of tackling the problem.
I think this is just one example of how you're talking out of your butt. You just don't have the perspective of someone who's been through it.
As I said, just because you haven't had BV doesn't mean you can't contribute. Doctors don't have to suffer every disease in order to treat it effectively. Men can become great OB/GYN doctors despite the fact that they do not have vaginas.
But your latest set of comments are just really off the mark. And some of it is just plain wrong. (She's spotting because her period is coming? Come on. You just pulled that one straight out of your ass, and you know it.)
Another thing is: You repeat a lot of stuff that's already been discussed to death, and you keep bringing it up like it's something we've never heard of before. I'm not saying that anyone needs to be an expert to offer suggestions. But you claim to speak with authority ("I know enough to write a publication on it") and I'm telling you, you really don't. Your understanding of this topic is very shallow.
It's like you went to a Star Trek convention, and you're telling people, "Hey, did you know Capt. Kirk's middle name is Tyberius?" (Or whatever, I don't watch that show.) And everyone else will roll their eyes and say, "Yeah, we know." Well, that's ... you.
I mean, what do you expect? This is a thread for people who've had, or have, ongoing problems with BV. It's like ... having kids. If you've never raised kids, you don't really know what it's like. And even though you may have some good suggestions about raising kids, ultimately, your advice is kind of useless because your perspective is limited. And you can't blame mothers for not wanting your advice when you've never been one.
And some of the things you say are just insulting and ignorant. At some point you said, "I heard that [BV is] mainly caused by unhealthy eating habits, drinking/smoking, several sex partners, poor immune system, pollution and so on
Once again, from the perspective of people who have been struggling with BV for years, this is just plain insulting. Some of us have tried EVERYTHING we can think of, including drastically modifying our diets and lifestyles, and going without sex for a long time even when we're in relationships. So for you to come in here and say shit like that is very upsetting. And if you had been through what most of us here have, you would know why
that is upsetting.
Sorry to pimp out Personal Messages that I get, but a few posters are upset about this dynamic. Personally, I do not care what you say. I don't have the time to deal with bullshit. But your ignorant comments are pissing people off, and for some reason people are writing me about it, and I thought you should know.
Like I said, you have contributed some useful research in this group. And I'm happy to give you credit when it's due. But as I said, about 80% of the time, what you say is at the very least pointless, and at worst, insensitive and upsetting.
Also - "... irate on a personal level?" That's just hilarious. Look, this isn't about you
. Instead of choosing to be personally "irate" by my comments, I think you should reflect on why I'm saying these things. Maybe, just maybe, there's some truth to it?
No one has to listen to me. But as always, I call it as I see it, and you can take that for what it's worth.