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ritzyreese
post Apr 25 2006, 10:58 PM
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post Jul 13 2006, 04:29 PM
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hey chimera -
i've sort of gone through the same thing, i sobered up a few years ago, and i've found it really difficult to have sexual relationships the same way I used to. It used to just be something I would do because I was expected to do it, and I was drunk anyway, and maybe it would make them like me blah blah blah. Now I have all these expectations of myself in my head, and it can be really hard to take the pressure off. Luckily, I don't have a history of sexual abuse or rape, but I'm assuming that can make everything three milllion times harder. Went I went to my therapist to talk about this, he says that the thing about it is that it takes years to move on past things like that, and that sometimes it feels like we're making progress and sometimes it doesn't. I don't think all the weird messages I get from the media about women always being ready to go are helping me any, either.
Luckily, my husband is pretty normal in tons of respects and extremely sensitive to me, but sometimes I really do wish I was that woman who just couldn't get enough of it.
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