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post Jan 6 2011, 05:52 PM
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Hey Girls!
Well I am one month out of surgery this week and I am also back at work as a fitness instructor/personal trainer. THoughts 1 month post-op:

No-one says anything, they just look! I mean it''s pretty obvious for those that knew me before that I have implants, cos I went from an A to a D cup! Not only that even though I was wearing a padded bra in my workplace the shape is totally different, they are rounder and fuller. But NOT ONE PERSON has come out and said anything. No co-workers no members or clients. I am almost waiting for the first person to say something to get it out the way smile.gif

I am less boob obsessed. Prior to surgery I used to be checking my bra all the time in mirrors, when I went to the bathroom I'd adjust my boobs in my bra, be conscious of them under clothes etc. Now that has gone. They feel so much a part of me now. I'll be honest and say they've increased my self confidence no end! Just the peace of mind knowing there is no padding hanging out, etc. My boobs never fit well into a bra before, I was very much a sports bra all the time person (good thing considering my job) and now I find my world opened up to bra's that FIT! I've only been bra shopping once so far but it was a much more pleasurable experience smile.gif

Work has been interesting. I've been pretty sore muscle wise from having 3 1/2 weeks off then getting back into routine. All exercises have been fine aside from push ups and chaturanga in yoga. THe pecs flex and the implants move, which is a weird feeling, not uncomfortable or painful it just feels well... weird. I'm modifying as needed for the time being. Everything else has been fine though. Even running and jumping jacks feel fine now, initially they felt weird cos of the weight but used to it now I guess?

I had a clear out of my wardrobe last week. Tried EVERYTHING on and ditched a few items, some too big and a few too small. Too small were button up shirts. So I sacrificed three button up shirts (1 I hadn't worn) for bigger boobs. However some other tops have had to wave goodbye as the boobs are too big for them, like halter tops with fitted bust section or band under the boobs, they are too small in that area, without showing too much upper boob. THings you don't realize when you have small boobs! Trying things on though both my husband and I were amazed how they can look HUGE in one outfit and small in another. Black tends to be smaller, and lighter colors tend to look bigger. Figure hugging obviously shows them off. 90% of my wardrobe IMO looks better, the other 10% looks the same. I bought some things prior to surgery in anticipation of wearing them post-op, one of which was a boob tube type top, no straps, not tight fitting and it looks great and feels good! When I wore that kind of top previously (strapless or halter style) I was always pulling at it trying to get it to look "right" even with a padded push-up on underneath. That constant checking and tugging has gone, just for that peace of mind it was SO worth it!

Right now I feel how I should have looked naturally. Not too big, not too small, perfectly proportioned to my body. So far 1 month later: I love them. Would I do it all over again? Yes definitely. My only regret so far: that I waited till I was 38!

I should have new pics soon and will email those gals that contacted me smile.gif
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post Jan 1 2011, 02:53 PM
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QUOTE(insideout @ Jan 1 2011, 04:40 PM) *
One of my best friends has very small breasts, and I actually have her to thank for my improved self-confidence over the past two years because I fell in love with her body, which is similar enough to mine that felt like a hypocrite getting down on myself! She's absolutely unselfconscious and has the cutest androgynous style ever. She wears little t-shirts with no bra and cargo pants, no makeup EVER, doesn't shave her pits, and usually cuts her own hair pretty short and choppy. And she's sooooo sexy because she owns her look.

Sheer awesomeness.

And nbdx, rock the short hair. I used to have that look and I still got stopped in the street with compliments on it--from both men and women, young and old. It is daring and confident.

And I thought you all would love this--hubby bought me a form-fitting thermal shirt for xmas. I ripped off my pajama top at the tree xmas morning and tried it on right htere, and he loved the high-beams I was sporting. Wearing it for real the first time today and he said, "It looks great, except for one thing...you have a bra on." Love it! <3
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post Jan 1 2011, 11:40 AM
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Thanks for the advice nbdx! I didn't think about small breast education, but I think that'll be my new outlook on situations like these. It's much harder to be hurt by someone if you think they're stupid, ahem, I mean uninformed ;D

Yeah it is Keri Russell, and I love her character too in LoG.

Androgyny is my specialty biggrin.gif Most of the time I'm sort of frumpy, but when I feel like dressing up I'm a huge fan of the pixie-punk look (but old school, none of this hot topic emo stuff that people love - I find it all too girly actually). So yeah, jeans and a tank top + some converses and a faux-hawk are my usual fare. Although, whenever I cut my hair super-short (which is quite often) I do have a few days of "oh my god I look like a boy" before I get over it and start feeling normal again.

This is the reason I find a lot of the fashion talk around small breasts useless and oftentimes offensive. It's always about hiding them, enhancing them, etc etc. Why not flaunt them just like everyone else? One of my best friends has very small breasts, and I actually have her to thank for my improved self-confidence over the past two years because I fell in love with her body, which is similar enough to mine that felt like a hypocrite getting down on myself! She's absolutely unselfconscious and has the cutest androgynous style ever. She wears little t-shirts with no bra and cargo pants, no makeup EVER, doesn't shave her pits, and usually cuts her own hair pretty short and choppy. And she's sooooo sexy because she owns her look.
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post Jan 1 2011, 11:07 AM
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Happy New Year everybody (and every boobie) smile.gif

Insideout: I'm so sorry that you're being teased. Women should be supporting each other instead of cannibalizing each other, especially when it comes to appearance. If you can, try to speak the truth about your body when she disses it publically. Like with the "no bra" thing, you could say exactly what you wrote to us. "I don't really have to wear a bra for support, but I like to hide the high-beams since they are such a distraction" wink.gif That way, you're kind of educating her (and possibly others around her) that one type of breast isn't better than the other. Tiny boobs are kind of a novelty, some people simply aren't in the know about their awesomeness. I personally wear a bra because my nipples have their party-hats on 24/7!

I think Keri Russel is in LoG. She's such a pretty lady. I never watched the show Felicity, but I always loved her hair when I saw commercials for it. And speaking of hair, I ended up cutting my own bangs (they're a little below eyebrow level and I sweep them to the side.) When I pulled my hair back for the first time, I was looking at my bangs and going "I kind of look like I have a Peter Pan haircut..." and I got a little worried about the slightly androgynous appearance.

But then I decided to take it even further for a NYE party by wearing some relaxed jeans and a black sweater with my hair pulled back. It looked AMAZINGLY HOT! I might end up taking them shorter to be even more pixie-esque when my hair is pulled back. And if I want a softer look, I let down my wavy collarbone-length hair and brush the bangs back. I used to really hate my androgynous features (especially my jawline, build, and small boobs) but now, I like dabbling lightly in what is deemed "boyish" fashion. Maybe I'll wear a tie someday! Or suspenders! biggrin.gif
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post Dec 30 2010, 08:17 PM
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I watched Leaves of Grass last night, an awesome but strange movie, and there's a small breasted heroine!!! Not only that, but she's juxtaposed against a large breasted woman who the hero is NOT interested in at all biggrin.gif
I'd recommend it for a happy-boost.
Have an Awesome New Years!
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post Dec 29 2010, 10:38 PM
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Wondermist, I just wanted to let you know that I am glad that you are here... not just because of your unique perspective, but because now I am no longer the youngest person posting here! YAY! wink.gif
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post Dec 29 2010, 02:38 AM
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Yeah, like I said, the other girls are worse in ways that matter more to me. It's sort of a no win situation, I guess.

So the Australian guy didn't even know about it! But he told me that Australia has a very conservative government that, in his opinion, doesn't represent liberal city dwellers very well. He said that in rural Australia there are a lot of VERY conservative people who support those kinds of absurd laws. And I've read this elsewhere as well.

In any case, he was appalled when I told him. It's good to know we aren't the only ones taking offense!!!!
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post Dec 28 2010, 10:38 PM
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"the girl I get along with the best has a nasty habit of putting me down." The girl that you get a long with BEST? Geeeeez, get out of there! LOL Seriously, though. I guess I agree with my fellow busties that you should try to talk to her about it. I mean if you get along with her the best than she has to care about you on SOME level, shouldn't she? But yeah, it sounds like she has some major self esteem issues. At my school, there are girls who give me a lot of crap about my small boobs, but i think there are some jealously issues with them because i am short and petite and pretty thin. Do you think maybe she might be jealous? Sooo yeah, i more side with Stronggirl in that I wouldn't want to stoop to her level, but at the same time, maybe she should get a taste of her own medicine if she doesn't get the message? I dunno. But do let us know what happens when you finally "grow a pair," ha ha smile.gif

A bit off subject, but what did the Australian guy say when you asked his opinion on the ban of small boobies?!? I am really curious. smile.gif
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post Dec 28 2010, 09:31 PM
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QUOTE(insideout @ Dec 27 2010, 11:41 PM) *
Thanks for the advice! I've never been one for confrontation so we'll see if I can grow a pair. Of balls. I never realized how that statement could be ambiguous when I say it, lol.


Teehee, that made me giggle. Ambiguity's not so bad sometimes! Good luck. I hope everything turns out all right.


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post Dec 28 2010, 02:41 AM
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Thanks for the advice! I've never been one for confrontation so we'll see if I can grow a pair. Of balls. I never realized how that statement could be ambiguous when I say it, lol.
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post Dec 27 2010, 08:11 PM
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QUOTE(strongirl @ Dec 27 2010, 05:07 PM) *
"Hey - I can't find the cat - can you check under your boobs?"

LOL!!!!!!'
OMG, love it!!!
Yes, do try and just talk to her, but I have to add--be prepared for her to be unresponsive. I'd say something along the lines of, "The things you say are hurtful and come across as immature and make you sound really insecure,etc. Please stop." Buuut, she may not get it unless you stoop to her level. (I've learned that, unfortunately, you have to learn someone's language and use it with them b/c they don't "speak" niceness and reason.

If she acts like an ass if you approach with kindness, then I'd whip out the "impending sag" and "can't find the cat" and such comments--often. Until she gets SICK of it. That may be the only way she gets the message. Unfortunately.
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post Dec 27 2010, 06:05 PM
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Hi All
I am almost 3 weeks post-surgery. As I don't want to post pics online I am going to email anyone that wants to see before/after pics so far. If you want to see them please PM me your emails address.

Pics are in a bikini, and annonymous (headless) but show the progression so far. I also have other pics without bikini I would be willing to share to a few regulars smile.gif
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post Dec 27 2010, 12:07 PM
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Well until I read the end of your post I was going to suggest "F--K them both, only in different ways". Bummer that he's gone and you still have to deal with her.

I'll be interested in any suggestions other people have about this girl. She sounds VERY much like an acquaintance of mine who I've mentioned in here before - a girl I've known socially for years and see just a few times a year but every single time I've seen her, she brings up her large boobs in conversation. I always joke to myself that when I see her I'm going to say something like "Hi Courtney, nice to see you and your boobs, how have the three of you been doing?"

This chick is also a very alpha female and while she comes across as super-confident and is always putting other people down I suspect she has a very low self-esteem and overcompensates, which is what your "friend" sounds like.

I haven't bothered to address the issue with the girl I know because I see her so seldom. Probably the best approach for you would be to speak to this girl sincerely and ask her to stop - be kind to her and ask her to be kind to you in return. But boy, it'd be hard not to fight fire with fire and start cracking jokes about udders, sagging, and how gross it must be under there if she has to use deodorant. "Hey - I can't find the cat - can you check under your boobs?"

I don't suggest you do that - it's mean and I feel bad for even having such thoughts. Just goes to show how contagious meanness is.
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post Dec 27 2010, 09:08 AM
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Hi, I've never posted but I lurk on a pretty regular basis.

I've found myself in an interesting situation with another girl and I'm not sure what to do about it.

Are you ready for a monster of a post?

Some back story: I just graduated from college and the friends I made there were VERY supportive of my body type (I barely fill out a 32A cup, and the rest of me is on the line between skinny and pear-shaped. I like my butt, sort of). I was spoiled by them, for sure. They always made me feel beautiful. Now I'm in a new place with new people, and the girl I get along with the best has a nasty habit of putting me down. I know, I know, how can I say that we get along then? Well, everyone else is worse, believe me.

But back to this girl . . . I think she may have self-esteem issues that she's taking out on me. She's a dominant female, for sure, and what she says to me is always delivered in a slightly aggressive, mean tone. She'll say things like "you don't need a bra, you have no breasts" (I donít wear bras, btw, and if I have to itís only to hide my nipples during professional events) and so on and so forth. It happens over and over again. Not only does she point out my lack of a chest, this girl goes out of her way to point out her big tits CONSTANTLY when I'm around, and even worse, when other people are around too. I won't rehash everything she's said; just suffice to say I'm sick of it.

I've been dealing with low self-esteem for a long time and I don't need her negativity bringing me down, but we are forced to live in super close proximity for the next few months. How do I tell her to quit it? Iíve never had a girl try so hard to bring me down before sad.gif .

Luckily for me this story has some happy moments. I have two occasions to relate, but first I will be referring to myself as S, the mean girl as N, and the hero of the day as E.

Like I mentioned, N pointed out my body shape on more than one social occasion, and on two of these E (a boy) stood up for me!!! Who would have thought, right? Anyways, I canít figure out how to say this without saying it all so here goes:

I'm good friends with an Australian guy - from here on A - and I was asking him what he thought about Australia banning small breasts and squirting (this was out of genuine curiousity - and we're a pretty open group.) So weíre talking about this and I'm feeling pretty good about myself regardless because I'm drunk, and E comes in and asks what we're talking about. I was listening to A and didn't answer. N fills him in, and then apropos of NOTHING she says "yeah, S is flat and she wouldn't be allowed to do porn in Australia . . ." I sort of shout, "hey, what????" in total disbelief. If we were having a conversation about modeling would I say to someone "oh yeah, we're talking about modeling because N could never be a model . . ." NO!!!!! WTF? She couldnít, by the way. Anyways, E looks at me and asks ďwhatís wrong with your breasts?Ē, tells me I'm sexy, then calls me "sweet tits." Seriously. I almost died laughing.

Another time N was yet again talking about her AND her mother's enormous breasts (some ridiculous story about how they put deodorant under there). So I'm drunk again (I swear I'm not an alcoholic) and I look down at my chest and say under my breath "no need to worry about that." One girl started cracking up, then E looks at me, puts both thumbs up and goes, "hell yeah" laugh.gif !!!!!!!!!! The best part was that N got super defensive and tried to defend big titties to this room of people who were clearly on my side (the girl cracking up has a problem with N too, I think she understands my frustration with her blatant power plays).

The best, best part is that I know N has a mini-crush on E, but he's totally into me. AND he's German, so he comes from the land of titty and still thinks I'm hot. AND he's sexy.

Ladies, there are men out there who want your little titties, no matter your body type.

Anyways, heís gone now sad.gif , hence my current problem of continuing to deal with this girl. Any advice? Sorry for such a long, mostly incoherent post; sometimes I just need a wild vent.

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post Dec 26 2010, 08:41 PM
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QUOTE(KeraBear @ Dec 26 2010, 05:46 PM) *
I saw a sticker today that said "I'm not perfect... but parts of me are incredible!" I think I will adopt this mantra. Yes, even for my booblets! smile.gif

Love it--both the T and your outlook!
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post Dec 26 2010, 05:04 PM
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I have a t-shirt that says something similar "I may not be perfect, but parts of me are pretty awesome!". It was from abercrombie & fitch but I picked it up for a buck at the thrift store smile.gif
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post Dec 26 2010, 12:46 PM
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I saw a sticker today that said "I'm not perfect... but parts of me are incredible!" I think I will adopt this mantra. Yes, even for my booblets! smile.gif
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post Dec 23 2010, 12:51 PM
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I agree I've seen some great before/afters and you wonder if they were photoshopped, but then I've also seen some terrible before/afters so who knows! lol! I know that so far I am very happy with how things turns out, though I am far from done healing and "dropping" yet.

Hoping to get pics done before xmas, if not it'll be next week! I'll post when I have the after 'so far' shots smile.gif
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post Dec 23 2010, 07:45 AM
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QUOTE(KeraBear @ Dec 22 2010, 06:30 PM) *
Karategrrl, glad you mentioned the pic thing. Was gonna ask but was afraid i would come off as a creeper, haha...

A picutre's worth a thousand words with stuff like this. Plus, I've seen a bazillion "befores" and "afters" on commercial web sites, but never had total confidence that the good-looking "afters" haven't been altered, you know? Spot-on's pics would be from a trusted source. smile.gif

And yes, spot-on, knowledge is POWER!
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post Dec 22 2010, 01:30 PM
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QUOTE(nbdx0645 @ Dec 21 2010, 07:23 PM) *
Instead of a swearing jar, we should institute a negative-body-talk jar. smile.gif


Yes. Everytime someone says negative self talk we can use the codeword "Jar" smile.gif

Karategrrl, glad you mentioned the pic thing. Was gonna ask but was afraid i would come off as a creeper, haha...
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