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Like many sexually active, heterosexual women, I have had my fair share of experiences with men trying to explain to me that condoms just don’t “work” for them. I’m a little embarrassed to report that in my younger years when I was less experienced and much less confident, I might have tried to convince them otherwise or negotiate some way for us to have sex anyway (usually ending up doing it on his terms). Thankfully, these days I have no problem just saying, “that’s bullshit” and “this ain’t happening unless you wrap it up. Read More
Having sex is completely normal. I have it, you may have had it (and it’s totally okay if you haven’t), and the person sitting next to you probably has too. You’re probably thinking, “Yeah, Samantha, it’s the 21st Century, duh it’s normal.” Unfortunately, sex is still as taboo as it was when we were growing up. Read More
Ever dance merrily in a room full of feminists? Me neither, until I partied Planned Parenthood style on Tuesday at their 11th annual Summer Sex and Spirits event, a night I’d describe as half fundraiser/silent auction, half rave. I spent my evening at the Broad Street Ballroom enjoying the fabulous open bar (they had a cocktail named the Ruth GINsburg), boogeying to perfectly DJ’ed music, and marveling at the work of Mistress B, a leather-clad balloon dominatrix who dispenses helium for her latex creations through a nipple pump. Read More
In a recent survey, 68% of teens said they agreed with this statement: The primary reason they don't use birth control or protection is because they're afraid their parents will find out. According to research by The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, that’s nearly seven out of ten teens who say they are scared of what their parents might think or say about their sex lives. Although the teen pregnancy rate in the U.S. is currently lower than it has ever been in the last seventy years, this development is quite worrisome. Read More
I went to a public high school in California, where my freshman year sex ed course emphasized abstinence. I remember pretty clearly that a woman came in to warn us that even masturbating too much would make it difficult to fall in love. I think they were expecting it to go like this.  Luckily, I have awesome parents, and by that time I had seen Never Been Kissed enough times to know how sex ed was supposed to be. Most of us knew our teacher was either wildly misinformed or lying,  but we had pop culture to show us the light. Read More
“I’m surprised that men are selfish in bed,” said no one ever. In case you had any doubts, though, this study, which surveys 24,000 students at 21 different colleges over the course of five years, shows that 80 percent of men had an orgasm the last time they hooked up with someone, compared to 40 percent of women. Men involved in the study admitted that they don’t focus as much on pleasing their partner when it comes to random sex as much as they might a committed partner. Read More
Today, The Atlantic published a fascinating report on the despicable state of sex ed in Mississippi. The piece, by Andy Kopsa, outlines the obstacles facing sex ed advocates in a state that is famously the most religious in the nation, and also has the highest teen birth rate in the country. According to The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 58% of high school-aged students in Mississippi have had sex, and 35% did not use protection. These statistics make a lot of sense, considering the fact that Mississippi public schools have only recently been required to provide sex ed. Read More
The birds-and-the-bees conversation between parents and teens isn’t exactly the easiest topic to discuss at the dinner table, though we all know it's a vital rite of passage to growing up. But what about the teens with special needs? A new study reveals that not only do they have a limited knowledge of sex, but many have some alarming misconceptions regarding human sexuality. The study's lead researcher Ruth Garbutt found that several students believed gay sex was illegal or weren’t aware that sexual abuse is an offense that’s investigated by police. Read More