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Recently, I came out as bisexual (surprise, Mom!) and was met with entirely positive reactions from everyone I told. However, before coming out I was terrified of telling people. I've heard bisexuals being totally discounted, and with rampant bi erasure and biphobia in media, spewed by people I know online and in real life, it's no wonder I was freaked. So, here's a list of myths that are as false as can be regarding bisexuality and pansexuality. Let's learn about the B in LGBTQIAP+! 1. Myth: Bisexuality doesn’t exist; people can only be monosexual. Read More
The 4th of July is right around the corner. Americans across the country are breaking out the barbecues, stocking up on red, white, and blue paraphernalia, and trying to find the best vantage point from which to view the fireworks. (I recommend finding a friend who lives in a tall apartment building and hanging out on their roof.)  Now, I love a celebration as much as anyone, but I think it’s important that we remember that, much though we’d like to deny it, oppression is still a very present issue for many people. Read More
  On a Friday evening in Harlem, I met up with Mitra Kaboli, one of the Producers and Editors for the feminist podcast Audio Smut. On June 17, Audio Smut shot to number one on iTunes in the sexuality category, beating out famed talk personalities like Dan Savage. Big things are happening in the radio world for this team, primarily made up of young women. Read More
Earlier this year, the My Brother’s Keeper program, a national initiative with the goal of improving the lives of boys and young men of color (specifically Black and Latino youth) was established. The initiative itself is somewhat flawed in that it is perpetuated by a rhetoric that supports white supremacy. While, yes, the fact that the first Black president is coming out with this type of program is eons beyond what we would expect a white president to do for Black and Latino youth, Obama has a peculiar way of going about it. Read More
Apart from her amazing performance in her band White Lung, it was Mish Way's unabashed admiration for Courtney Love that first endeared her to me.  For all her faults, Courtney taught a generation of girls that women could be wild rock stars too. Sure, there were lots of female-fronted rock groups like Veruca Salt and Garbage around, but none were nearly as in-your-face, smart and unapologetic as Courtney.  She always had an articulate and witty reply for her detractors and it spoke to my jaded teenage heart. Read More
It is still of the upmost belief that in child custody battles, women have an advantage. In fact, it is a popular argument by many Men’s Rights Activists that men are “oppressed” because of this “fact.” As usual, these MRAs have no warrants to their claims. Unfortunately, more than just MRAs buy into this particular belief. Many women also believe that child custody cases favor them – meaning they believe that women more often get full custody, men are completely removed from parenting, and the only way men contribute is through child support. Read More
Growing up, I knew what it felt like to be brown. I knew that going over to my friend's house for dinner meant that my mom would think I was malnourished when I came back. I knew that I dreaded being out in the sun for too long because that meant I got darker, and God forbid I get darker. I knew that I would feel ashamed when my mom talked too loudly in Spanish, or I had to translate for her. Being brown – for me – meant that as a kid, I constantly compared myself to people who were fundamentally different from me. Read More
Aw, there's nothing like a good ol' bit of satirical internet mischief to get you through Hump Day. And our favorite new blog's premise is based off the old chestnut about men taking up too much space on the train-- there's even a Tumblr devoted to it. But this new blog suggest that men take "spread their legs while sitting down" because, of course, "they're saving room for cats! Duh!" Here are a few goodies... Check out the SavingRoomForCats Tumblr and thank these men for their kindness to animals. Read More
As the Amazing Spiderman, Andrew Garfield is no stranger to skintight costumes. But the outfits he wears in Arcade Fire's new video, "We Exist," are revealing in a whole different way. We kicked off the week with another new video featuring a blonde wig, so this seems like the perfect bookend. Both music videos highlight the performance of gender; how femininity is nothing inherent, but rather a set of learned behaviors. Read More
Pull on your red pleather boots, slap on some lipstick and a pair of heart-shaped glasses and go out dancing. In a field. Or outside a post office. Or in the forest. This is what front woman of HERS, Melissa L. Amstutz, does in the video for "Please." She places her hand stiffly on her head, positioning her own body. She dons a platinum blonde wig, and we are forced to see her enact a strange femininity. Gender truly is a performance, and one we all undergo each day. We see that there is so much more to a woman, to Amstutz, than blonde hair and red lips. Read More