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With all the supposed "gray areas" regarding what constitutes consent, blogger RockstarDinosaurPiratePrincess has cleared up the topic using tea as an example. She writes, “If you’re still struggling, just imagine instead of initiating sex, you’re making them a cup of tea.  You say ‘hey, would you like a cup of tea?’ and they go ‘omg fuck yes, I would fucking LOVE a cup of tea! Thank you!*’ then you know they want a cup of tea. If they say ‘No thank you’ then don’t make them tea. At all. Read More
  College Humor needs to stop downplaying the greatness that is this music video! The new black and white short video titled, "Sexually Enlightened R&B Song," can and should be covered by John Legend in the near future (seriously John, this is me asking you to cover this song, please, please, please!). The song is performed by Phil Jackson, who says he will do his lady (played by Briana King) “socio-politically” right. Right on! The confessions, admiration, and respect that this song shows for ladies everywhere is on point. And it only gets better with each line. Read More
“Yes means yes” will soon be the rule of thumb on California college campuses, thanks to California Senate Bill 967, which passed in the state senate Thursday. SB-967 mandates that California colleges adopt “an affirmative consent standard in the determination of whether consent was given by both parties to sexual activity.” The bill defines affirmative consent as “affirmative, conscious, and voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity. Read More
Whether we have the internet or real life experience to thank, most human beings are aware of the every day existence of cat callers and subway perverts. Less is said however, about the presence of sexual harassment at events like Comic Con. Often, in preparation for these conventions, super fans will spend months planning insanely amazing, elaborate costumes that perfectly and uniquely embody their favorite characters, movies, TV shows, and comic books (this is called cosplay). Read More
Sexual assault, rape, stalking, domestic violence, abuse and sexual coercion are all major problems in our society. They also happen too often, with 1 in 5 women reporting that they have been victims of rape or attempted rape, and 1 in 4 reporting having been beaten by a partner. What’s scary to me, though, isn’t just that statistic. It’s how many women I know who have realized what happened to them well after the fact. Read More
In his recent article regarding on-campus rape, George Will cited one Swarthmore student’s story of being assaulted:   She and her assaulter had “now decided — mutually, she thought — just to be friends. When he ended up falling asleep on her bed, she changed into pajamas and climbed in next to him. Soon, he was putting his arm around her and taking off her clothes. ‘I basically said, “No, I don’t want to have sex with you.” And then he said, “OK, that’s fine” and stopped. . . . Read More
In 2013 a student at Swarthmore college “was in her room with a guy with whom she’d been hooking up for three months… They’d now decided — mutually, she thought — just to be friends. When he ended up falling asleep on her bed, she changed into pajamas and climbed in next to him. Soon, he was putting his arm around her and taking off her clothes.”  She states that “‘I basically said, “No, I don’t want to have sex with you. Read More
Mandy Boardman had noticed feelings of drowsiness.  She awoke one morning with a half dissolved pill in her mouth to see her husband, David Wise, leaving the room.  But she was not prepared to learn that Wise had been drugging and raping her repeatedly over the course of three years, a fact which she discovered when she found the sex tapes he had been making on his phone.  Shortly after this incident, police began a three year police investigation which culminated in a trial lasting through April this year. Read More
  A lot of time and energy has been put into making safe sex fun. It looks like some of it may have been paying off. You might have seen our post about condoms that promote a culture of consent. First off, props to Force: Upsetting Rape Culture and the folks at Say It With a Condom. Cute, attention-grabbing, to the point--but I wonder if the point is coming across as clearly as it could. Read More
Force: Upsetting Rape Culture is a brilliantly creative activist group that advocates against all forms of sexual violence. Force’s mission is “to disrupt the silence that surrounds sexual violence” and “promote a culture of consent.” From this core belief to their intelligent artistic approaches, Force's aggressive message is so important I think it should be plastered on the walls and shouted from the rooftops... or at the very least, spread throughout social media outlets. Read More
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