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In 2013 a student at Swarthmore college “was in her room with a guy with whom she’d been hooking up for three months… They’d now decided — mutually, she thought — just to be friends. When he ended up falling asleep on her bed, she changed into pajamas and climbed in next to him. Soon, he was putting his arm around her and taking off her clothes.”  She states that “‘I basically said, “No, I don’t want to have sex with you. Read More
Mandy Boardman had noticed feelings of drowsiness.  She awoke one morning with a half dissolved pill in her mouth to see her husband, David Wise, leaving the room.  But she was not prepared to learn that Wise had been drugging and raping her repeatedly over the course of three years, a fact which she discovered when she found the sex tapes he had been making on his phone.  Shortly after this incident, police began a three year police investigation which culminated in a trial lasting through April this year. Read More
  A lot of time and energy has been put into making safe sex fun. It looks like some of it may have been paying off. You might have seen our post about condoms that promote a culture of consent. First off, props to Force: Upsetting Rape Culture and the folks at Say It With a Condom. Cute, attention-grabbing, to the point--but I wonder if the point is coming across as clearly as it could. Read More
Force: Upsetting Rape Culture is a brilliantly creative activist group that advocates against all forms of sexual violence. Force’s mission is “to disrupt the silence that surrounds sexual violence” and “promote a culture of consent.” From this core belief to their intelligent artistic approaches, Force's aggressive message is so important I think it should be plastered on the walls and shouted from the rooftops... or at the very least, spread throughout social media outlets. Read More
Is that a list in your pants, or are you just happy to see me? Irony has rooted itself in our culture, and now it's taken hold of our sex lives. Dating and sex can be awkward for everyone, but a little determination goes a long way. It's best to be pragmatic about these things. The world, and the internet currently attempting to swallow it whole, is full of misinformation, theories, and most of all, lists. The sex tips in beauty magazines usually end up more boardroom than bedroom. Read More
I'm sure you can recall the amazing guerrilla feminism exhibited by the intelligent and witty women of FORCE, the group behind the faux-PINK Victoria's Secret consent line last year, featuring a full campaign around a fake line of panties, donning messages of enthusiastic consent and modeled by racially diverse women of all shapes and sizes. For just a moment, we thought Victoria's Secret joined us in this century, only to realize the panties were just an illusion; a fictional aspect of a very well done viral activism. Read More
"The Six Ways We Talk About Teenage Girls," recently published on Salon.com, sheds light on a devastating double standard that teen girls deal with every day. The article maps out six ways in which society redefines age in order to justify a legal and mental lack of consent. As a culture, we seem to have adapted the patterns of Nabokov's novel, in which the main character lusts after a 12 year old girl, completely blinding himself to her mere facade of emotional readiness and maturity. Read More
Popular crowdfunding website Kickstarter has been all over the news this week because of their seemingly tacit endorsement of a particularly loathsome seduction book by pick-up artist Ken Hoinsky, AKA a sexual harrassment how-to. Hoinsky’s known on Reddit – an infamous Internet community that raises eyebrows online for its consistent promotion of misogyny and violence – as user TofuTofu. Read More
  Privacy seems to be a thing of the past, as anyone who participates in social media will agree. If you post a picture of yourself on the Internet, it's there forever. Imagine, however, that one day you're walking down the street and you see a picture of your own body printed on a grown-person-sized pillow that someone else is carrying. This might sound like a ridiculous situation, but for a group of cosplayers, that bizarre scenario actually happened. Read More
Ring the alarm! Can you believe this? Somebody smacked Beyonce’s Bey-hind while she was performing in Copenhagen. Yes, a complete douchebag reached his hand out from Beyonce’s audience and slapped her on the butt. Dude, what were you thinking?! Beyonce’s ass is Beyonce’s ass. No matter how much you spent on your concert ticket, you cannot buy the right to touch her bootylicious self. Or anybody’s self for that matter, bootylicious or otherwise, unless they give their permission. The magic word is CONSENT. If you ain’t got it, you can’t touch it. Read More