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Q: I’ve been seeing a new guy for about a year, and we have decided to be non-monogamous. Other relationships I’ve had haven’t lasted this long, or I wasn’t this emotionally invested, so non-monogamy wasn’t an issue. I’m still having trouble with feelings of jealousy and low self-esteem, even though he has told me that he loves me and he isn’t going anywhere. Read More
Q: I’m an older woman (just north of 50) and, after years of being celibate, I have found myself interested in BDSM. I tried for a very long time to convince myself that I didn’t want a single shred of kink in my life, and very nearly succeeded. Circumstances in my life also made it difficult to focus on anything like a relationship, never mind one that would involve kink. I don’t want a Story of O relationship, and I don’t want to rush into too much, too soon. I want to meet other kinky people, make friends, and find someone who can show me the ropes, so to speak. Read More
Q: I’m the mom of two boys, ages four and eight, and I want to be open and honest with them about sex—when the time comes. I feel like my eight year old is close to ready, but I’m nervous about starting a conversation he may not be ready for. Should I wait for him to ask me? I’d also love any recommendations about this conversation in general. I want to make sure that we can always talk openly and respectfully. I definitely want to educate them beyond the norm. Read More
Q: Sex has always been painful for me. Right after I started having sex, I had an extensive yeast infection that resulted in vaginal nerve damage. Pelvic floor therapy worked wonders, and I learned a number of exercises to do on my own and with my boyfriend before sex, which included everything from massage to dilators. My then-boyfriend was very supportive, but we’ve since broken up. I’m hoping to start dating again soon, but I’m not sure how to approach sex with a new guy. Despite the progress I’ve made, sex remains difficult. Read More
Dishing about sex over brunch with your besties is a crucial part of life, but sometimes things are a little too intimate to be shared between mimosas. If you're in a private pickle that needs some more serious attention, hit up our question box and submit your quandary anonymously! Your question could be picked for an upcoming issue, to be answered by our esteemed advice columnist Carol Queen. Carol is an internationally known writer, sex educator, activist, performer, and founding director for the Center for Sex & Culture. If you want advice from anyone, it's Carol. Read More